Today's step to positive mental health is Talk it Out.
But before I explain this step I just want to make sure you all know what positive mental health is
Positive mental health is about more than being free of mental illness such as depression, bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia. It is also about having a positive sense of wellbeing. Positive mental health allows us to enjoy life’s pleasures, believe in our own abilities, cope with the normal stresses of life, work/study productively and enjoy socialising.
Positive mental health is about reaching our potential and feeling like we always have the chance to give everything our best shot. Not just feeling positive, but also getting out there in the big bad world. Positive mental health not only prevents mental ill health, it also leads to greater enjoyment and satisfaction with one’s life.
So back to today's step, talk it out.
Feeling close to, and valued by, other people is a fundamental human need. Social relationships are critical for promoting wellbeing and can help reduce the risk of mental ill health for people of all ages. With this in mind, try to do something different today – and make a connection. • Talk to someone instead of sending an email • Talk to someone new • Ask how someone’s weekend was and really listen when they tell you
• Phone or meet someone you care about for a proper catch up.
But most importantly put down your devices and properly talk face to face to other people.
And when you have things on your mind that are worrying you
• Talk it out.
• Chatting about things that bother you can help reduce the problem, as they say ‘a problem shared is a problem solved’.
• Often in talking with someone you gain a different perspective that can help you look at things in a different way or find solutions.
• Talking it out can help lessen worry and reassure you that there is a better or different way forward.
• Have a cup of tea with someone who cares for you, or give them a call, and let them know you are not okay. You don’t have to appear to be strong or to try to struggle through things by yourself.
• If you’re not comfortable talking to a friend or family member, then it could be good to try a non-judgemental listening service like the Samaritans.
Therapy is also an option.
J.k. Rowling said that CBT cognitive behavioural therapy really helped her to overcome depression.
There are other ways that people all around the world cope with their problems or worries.
In Guatemala people use worry dolls to talk about their fears or worries. They are hand made dolls dressed in traditional Mayan clothes, only one or two inches tall. The idea is that the dolls are given to children who then tell their fears and sorrows to the doll.
They place them under their pillow and in the morning the worries are gone.
Dream catchers were used by the Native American Indians and are now a feature in homes all over the world. Dream catchers are believed to grab nightmares and thus prevent you from having bad dreams.
There is a tradition in Ireland to carry a Connemara Marble Worry Stone. It is a highly polished oval shaped stone which is flat on one side and concave on the other. The belief is that if you rub the hollow part with your thumb that the marble will absorb your worries and take them away.
Admitting that you need help doesn't make you broken. It makes you fixable and teachable.